Here you’ll find my Top 12 ways to support your own healing after miscarriage…
JOURNAL: When I began to like I was ready to heal my broken heart after years of holding onto the grief and sadness of my miscarriages, I didn’t know how to release the tremendous pain that I felt and yet still hold on to the memory of my babies. A friend suggested I journal. Soon I found myself writing letters to each of my babies and through putting pen to paper, I realized that my soul craved the quiet time of reflection, connection, release and honoring.
FEEL ALL OF YOUR FEELINGS: This is so hard yet its an integral step to healing your heartache. Lean into the depths of your soul and let your feelings rise. Recognize each one of them, honor them, the dark ones and the light ones. If you don’t give yourself the time and space to fully grieve through it all, it will come back in some other form.
CRYSTALS FOR GRIEF: Rose Quartz, I’ve carried it in my pockets, laid it under my pillow and kept it close by my journal when I write. I love this crystal! The rose quartz is a crystal for unconditional love, it supports the heart during times of heavy grief and sadness.
Apache Tears, this is one I’ve recently been introduced to. There’s a legend that goes with this stone which you can look up, but Apache Tears is very supportive during grief and helps to keep you in the present moment rather than the past.
Ruby Zoisite, another favourite, helps to release heartache.
Mangano Calcite a very gentle stone for when you feel like you are drowning in grief, it makes you feel as though your angels are wrapping you in love.
CEREMONY: This can be as special or sacred as you like. You could plant a tree in memory of your baby. You could gather your family, light a candle and say a prayer or write a poem that you’ll always treasure. You may want to blow up some biodegradable balloons and release them on your baby’s first birthday. Make this exactly what you need to support your healing.
ABSOLUTE ROSE OIL: Just a tiny drop on your finger to gently massage into your heart chakra (both front and back) When your heart feels broken, this will support you to keep an open heart.
COZY UP IN YOUR FAVOURITE BLANKET: No words needed here, sometimes this is like a hug from your favourite granny.
CLEAR THE ENERGY OF YOUR SPACE: Use sage, a bay leaf, incense or an essential oil diffuser to clear any negative energy in your home. Be sure to open a window or two to all the smoke and negative energy to pass through your home.
NAME YOUR BABY: For some parents this may be too difficult to do. If your baby passed very early,some parents choose for something simple like peanut or jellybean. Yet for others, it makes their baby more real. Honor your heart in all you do and if this is right for you, then the perfect name will present itself.
JEWELRY: Honor yourself and your baby with a beautiful piece of jewelry that will commemorate the month they were to be born. You’ll always have a little piece of them close to your heart.
CREATE A SACRED MEMORY BOX: This can be such a special opportunity to pour your heart into something beautiful for yourself and your little angel. In here, you can place your journal or any little treasures you collected for this baby. Sometimes you need to do something creative when your feelings are just so overwhelming and creating a memory box can feel so comforting. This is a wonderful idea, you could line it with silk and put a little teddy bear in there, your pregnancy test stick, a letter or any other little mementos.
SELF CARE: Whether you have a luxurious bubble bath, book a massage, buy some flowers or gather your family and friends, make time that you can devote to some sacred self care.
SEE A COUNSELOR, HEALER OR GRIEF COACH: If you’ve recently lost your baby, your pain may be very raw. Healing your heartache of your pregnancy loss is a very personal choice. You must go through this healing journey; however, you can do it a way that is right you. Please ensure you seek the support that will be helpful to you right now. You do not have to go through this alone.
If you’ve got questions or would you like to have support through your healing journey, I invite you to connect with me for a free 20 minute Soul Care Call