Healing through Acceptance

Healing through Acceptance

Acceptance Brings Healing

 

Healing through Acceptance is a process…

We seldom consider the experience that our heart, mind and body must go through to reach this place of acceptance, to allow our experience to process in area of our life, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.

Healing is a time of transformation; as we release the dreams, heartache and sorrow to make room for something new.

Acceptance

Peace

Grace

In order to heal, we must be willing to release and more often then not, there is a breakdown before there is breakthrough. In my experience, I’ve noticed that the journey to healing comes in waves.

Just when you feel like you finally have control, that you’ve fully accepted your circumstances and all is smooth sailing, along comes a rogue wave that sends you crashing to the depths, feeling the pain all over again!

It took me years to find peace with the loss of my pregnancies. There were times that I felt like it was all water under the bridge, and then I would see children the age that mine would be, walking to school, riding bikes, just living life and the wave would wash over me once again. Bringing up all the emotions long buried, feeling the heartache all over again.

It wasn’t until I finally became aware that I hadn’t truly accepted the fact that I was not going to be a mother, that this lifetime would pass me by without having the opportunity to experience all that motherhood entailed, did I finally genuinely embrace the courage to release my heartache.

What I’ve found with healing, is that the memory never leaves;

The sadness is always a small undercurrent of emotion, I still shed tears and feel the emptiness at times; but with acceptance comes peace and slowly a transformation takes place.

Let your heart be your guide. It knows what’s best for you.

  • Be sure to give your body rest, to nourish it with nutritious food and strengthen it with exercise.
  • Create some space for joy!
  • Share your story in whatever way you can, as speaking of your loss brings healing.
  • If you have no one to share with, then write. Pour your heart and soul into writing, and amazing soulful healing take place within your heart.

It’s been 16 years now since my first miscarriage, with several others to follow and though at times the sadness is still felt in my heart and the tears still flow, I now hold it in a different space.

Where in the past, I felt such shame and heartache, I now have an appreciation for the life that I have and for the people I share my life with. I find new ways to be grateful.

My hope is that in being open with my journey, that it will allow you to find peace with yours.

Every woman who heals herself, heals all the women who came before her and all the women who come after her. – Dr. Christine Northrup

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What does it mean to heal?

What does it mean to heal?

What does it mean to heal?

heal…

verb

  1. (of a person or treatment) cause (a wound, injury, or person) to become sound or healthy again.
  2. To make or become well again.

 

I am passionate about helping women heal their stories.

When a woman heals her own heart, she not only heals her story but that of her mother, her grandmothers, her ancestors and all her daughters yet to come. Her whole world receives the blessing of this healing.

The journey through self-healing is not an easy road; it asks of you to connect with your shadow self, to view it through the lens of love and light. It can bring up painful memories of the past, memories long buried. Yet by shining love into those dark spaces you allow for personal healing to begin. This takes so much courage and not everyone is able to go there.

 

What are you ready to heal?

The heartache of a lost baby, born or unborn? The story of your past?

Words spoken that hurt so deeply you can still feel the pain today? Actions of others that have left an imprint on your heart and soul?

All of these are like shackles that keep you from living the life of your dreams; they hold you down, they hold you back. Keeping you in the past.

I’ve been there. I understand the heartache. I also know how freeing it can be to make that decision to heal your past, to release the pain.

I honor the journey that you’re taking, I know the courage that lies within you;

As you begin this healing journey, know this…

You already have everything within you that you need to heal.

Support your inner healing and personal growth with sacred self-care.

And remember, the strength of all those sisters who came before you; most did the best they could with what they knew and the spirit within them, also lies within you.

You are an amazing, courageous woman, you have within you the power to change your world.

 

When one woman heals, magic happens!

  • Her heart is filled with compassion;
  • Peace lights her soul;
  • Inner darkness transforms into light;
  • Gratitude now lights her way;
  • Feelings of emptiness make room for new purpose;
  • Her healing creates a foundation of inner strength that cannot be broken.

 

Every woman who heals herself, heals all the women who came before her and all the women who come after her. – Dr. Christine Northrup

 

 

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In Loving Memory

In Loving Memory

Miscarriage…

There’s such sadness in that word.

I remember the day I realized our life was about to change, in a BIG way.

I dreamed of all the miracles that were ahead and felt indescribable joy!

I was filled with excitement, already in love with our baby.

Then… the unthinkable happened.

Heart broken, I realized that my dreams were lost. Helpless, my world came crashing down. My babies left before I had a chance to hold them in my arms.

My husband and I have had five miscarriages. Its such a lonely experience and in my pain I kept quiet as many do by the common thought to not reveal your pregnancy until you’ve safely past the first trimester.

It’s a commonly known fact that one in four pregnancies ends with miscarriage, usually before three months, this allows a woman to keep her secret.

While there are many cultures who honor the baby who passes before birth, some carry out rituals, others have baby-naming ceremonies, sadly our culture does nothing. This just adds to the emotional and psychological grief that a woman experiences. Strangely, it makes sense, if you tell no one of your pregnancy then there’s no one to know of your heartache.

What are you to do when you’re all alone in your sadness? How was I to react when the comments of misguided love came my way. “It wasn’t meant to be” or “Not to worry, you’ll have another.”

For years I wondered who I was as a woman who had had multiple miscarriages, yet never was blessed to be a mother. What do you say when people ask “How many kids do you have?”

I felt so much shame in having to give an answer.  It was easier to keep silent and hide in grief and loneliness.

None of these emotions can help heal. 

There is no joy in the depths of this pain.

After years of holding the shame close to my heart, I finally realized I was no longer going to live like this. By no fault of my own did I lose my babies, I was finally ready to make peace with my loss. Miscarriage does not define me. I am so much more than that.

I became aware of who I had allowed myself to become and consciously made the decision to allow my heart to heal.  My morning rituals of meditation, journaling and energy healing created space inside my heart for those raw emotions to rise to the surface.  I began to feel a deep sense of healing and with the support of a dear friend who was able to ask the questions that I’ve been longing for someone to ask, she helped me to express my feelings in a new way, with this came blissful, soulful peace.

I will never forget my little ones; they will always have a special place in my heart.
In loving memory

 

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