Rituals of Remembrance at Christmas

Rituals of Remembrance at Christmas

Rituals of Remembrance at Christmas

 

The Christmas season is the perfect time of year to honor our loved ones who have passed.  Be it Grandparents, parents, aunts & uncles, spouse, children, born and unborn babies and yes, even our pets.

Though we may find it deeply emotional, keeping our memories alive, can be so very healing.

Imagine sitting around the Christmas tree on Christmas Eve, or gathering with family or friends for a special meal. As we look around, seeing those we love close by and yet our heart aches for those who are no longer with us.

 

Instead of letting the holiday pass in silence of our loved ones, why not bring them into our space?

 

  • You may want to place candles on the table and invite the family to say the name of your loved one as you light the candle.

 

  • Create a Memory Table with your grandmothers’ favorite dish or your brothers’ favorite food. (It doesn’t matter that it doesn’t match the dinner menu, you’re taking some time to honor the one you love.)

 

  • I love the idea of keeping memories alive for the children. Setting up photos of family and friends who have passed and letting each person present, share a memory.  This keeps memories alive for everyone and especially for children who may not have known their grandparents, aunts or uncles.

 

  • Raise a toast in honor of your loved ones.

 

  • Send cards to your loved one’s closest friends, they’ll cherish the gesture and will feel a special connection with you.

 

  • Invite the children to create a Christmas Memory Ornament for the tree, with your loved one’s name or favorite color.

 

  • Set a place at the table in honor of your loved one.

 

  • I know Christmas can feel empty for parents who have lost a born or unborn baby. Christmas is a perfect time to honor your little one.  You could have an ornament made for your tree to be put up each and every year.

 

  • If you had a pet pass away, you may want to create an ornament with their photo and name placed on it, in memory of your fur baby.

 

  • If your loved one had a favorite charity or passion in life, you could donate in honor of them.

 

If grief has been present in your life for far too long and you’re curious as to how we can work together, then I invite you to schedule a complimentary 30-minute chat and let’s see if my work will be a good fit for you.

 

Peace and Blessings, Tracey

Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of people struggling on the path of unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.

Your Healing Needs Your Grief

Your Healing Needs Your Grief

Grief can Show us our Capacity for Love

6 years ago.

Life looked amazing.

Surrounded by beauty.

A loving husband who I adore, family, fur babies and a home full of amazing international students!

From the outside, my life was great. It really was!

On the inside, there was an inner heart ache.

Not present in every moment, but in the dark of night.

The quiet times.

In those solitary moments the tears would fall.

My sadness would bubble up from deep inside.

The on-going question of “Why?!”

No matter how hard I tried to disguise the emptiness that I felt inside, it would always sneak up behind me at the most in-opportune moments!

Setting the table for Thanksgiving for all who would be present, for everyone, except for 5 babies.

Remembering the magic of Christmas as a child, but knowing that we would never have a child who would have that experience.

Birthdays would come and go and no one would ever remember them but me.

Mother’s Day, by far the most difficult day of all!

All of this had been building inside of me for years, the ache of loss.

I didn’t know what to do with all my emotions of grief, I didn’t know how to grieve.

Yet slowly, it bubbled up from deep within.

Until one day, I looked in the mirror.

My soul was crying out for JOY.

That was the moment that everything changed. It wasn’t immediate.

It was slow and gentle, just as it should be.

My healing needed my grief.

It awakened something inside of me and gave me space to begin my journey to peace.

This was my path.

I needed to feel the pain of grief, it could not be by-passed.

I had desperately held onto my grief because it was the last remaining tie I had to my babies. I thought if I let that go, then I would be left with nothing.

And then, who would I be?

Today, I’m so grateful that I chose this path.

I’ve been to the depths and risen up through it all.

I’ve learned that grief can become a friend, who walks by my side to remind me of the magnificence of life!

Grief can be a balm for our broken hearts.
Grief shows us our capacity of love.
Grief is a skill that must be learned.

My journey with grief has taught me to dive deep into nurturing practices that have brought me so much peace.

So that today, I can show you.

So that together, we can shine a light into your shadows of grief.

So, you too, can make peace with your past.

If grief has been present in your life for far too long and you’re curious as to how we can work together, then schedule a complimentary 30-minute chat and let’s see if my work will be a good fit for you.

Peace and Blessings, Tracey

 

Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of people struggling on the path of unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.

 

 

 

 

 

Grief Healing with Reiki

Grief Healing with Reiki

HEALING GRIEF WITH REIKI

If you’ve heard my story, you know that Reiki was a primary factor on my healing journey.

After years of pushing my sadness deep inside because I simply didn’t have the tools or understanding as to how do deal with grief, my sadness reached a point where it bubbled up and out into every aspect of my life.

I knew I had to do something and someone had suggested Reiki to me. I had never heard of it and was pretty skeptical at the time. Yet, I knew I didn’t want to go on, feeling the way I did.

I sought out a Reiki teacher and booked myself in for my first class without even having experienced Reiki for myself, I just knew I needed this!

WHAT IS REIKI?

For those who aren’t too sure, Reiki is a Japanese technique used for stress reduction and relaxation.  It’s known for promoting healing all aspects of our body.  Emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally.  Often times, it has been offered by laying hands on the body, though they can be held slightly above the body too. It’s been used for thousands of years and the word Reiki actually comes from two Japanese words – Rei and Ki.  REI meaning – Higher Knowledge and KI meaning Life Energy.

This Life Energy plays such an important role in our healing journey.

REIKI FOR GRIEF

While Reiki is beneficial for many purposes, as my work is specifically for grief, that’s what I’ll be talking about here.

For those of us who are on a grief journey, you know what grief can do to our bodies.  It takes a great deal of energy to grieve.  Our heart feels broken, our body feels beaten down and we may feel exhausted on every level!.  This is where Reiki comes in.

Our bodies are made of energy and when we feel depleted, Reiki supports us in the most incredible ways.

HERE ARE JUST A FEW WAYS REIKI CAN SUPPORT US ON OUR GRIEF JOURNEY

Calms anxiety

Relaxes muscle tension

Balances energy

Supports deep relaxation for sound sleep

Reduces blood pressure

Promotes peace and a positive outlook

Many of these symptoms can be associated to our grief journey and its no wonder that so many people, myself included, turn to this gentle yet healing energy to support their body, mind and spirit after suffering a loss of any kind.

My journey to Reiki was one in which allowed me to turn a corner with grief.  After years of holding on to grief; sadness, shame, memories and so much more, Reiki became a welcome support for me. Over time, I continued my training and became certified as a Reiki Master/Teacher.

If you or someone you know, has experienced grief in whatever form it may take, please know that I am here to support you on your healing journey.

I welcome you to reach out.  I offer both in-person and online healing sessions.  Just click this link to schedule a time that works for you.

May you experience compassion, peace and grace through grief,

Tracey Swainson

 

Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of people struggling on the path of unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.
Dancing with Grief

Dancing with Grief

THE DANCE OF GRIEF

There is no one way that is right. Its what’s right for you.

“Grief never ends… But it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith… It is the price of love.”
— Unknown


I see Grief as a Dance.

You may go left, and then right. You may go forward for a few weeks and then back. There is a flow to this dance that we’ve been invited to participate in, at this moment, at this time in life.

We move in the direction that feels right, its our dance.

What feels right for you, may be completely different for me. We are all in different stages of our dance.

Through it all, keep watch for the blessings that come your way. Be grateful, for even the smallest joys.

One day you may realize, that you have the strength to support someone else who may be where you were in the last stage of your dance.

Remember, this dance is yours.
Be patient, kind and respectful of yourself.
Do it your way. Dance with grace.
Be gentle with yourself when you need gentleness.
Be strong, when you need strength.

Dance Your Way.💗

 

If you know the grief of pregnancy loss, then I invite you to join my Facebook group, Peace after Pregnancy Loss.

This space is perfect for moms and dads who have experienced pregnancy loss at any time in your life, as it’s never too late to feel peace after pregnancy loss! 

PEACE AFTER PREGNANCY LOSS

 

Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She dove deep into spiritual practice and became a reiki and meditation teacher. She’s an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting heart-centered women who have experienced the emotional trauma of pregnancy loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.
How to Cope with Guilt after Pregnancy Loss

How to Cope with Guilt after Pregnancy Loss

Have you been watching the Soul Sessions Series?

We’ve been talking about the different emotions of grief that we might experience and this week is all about GUILT!

What it is. How it affects us and some coping skills to support us through this!

Now we all experience guilt throughout our lives from childhood and beyond, but this week we’re talking about how we allow guilt to express its nasty negativity at a time in our life when we’re feeling so vulnerable!

After Pregnancy Loss.

Guilt can mess with our mind and make us believe things about ourselves that simply aren’t true.

It creates a space of self-blame or repressed anger, that we put on ourselves rather than expressing it verbally toward someone else. It eats away on our nerves and effects us mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

I found this quote by Louise Hay and it really made me think!

 

“Guilt is a totally useless emotion. It never makes anyone feel better, nor does it change a situation”. Louise Hay – You Can Heal Your Life.

How true is that?!

Guilt is a useless emotion that we use to punish ourselves rather than show compassion and forgiveness to the part of us that is in pain!

When we experience Guilt, we feel as though we’ve done something wrong and the questions of WHAT IF? WHY ME? WHAT DID I DO WRONG? IF ONLY? AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH?

Each of these begin to play a big role in our thought process!

What if?  What if I had been healthier? What if I had taken better care of my body?

Why me? I wanted that baby so badly. Why can some women have babies so easily?

What did I do wrong? I thought I was doing everything right, how could this have happened? How could I have prevented this?

Am I not good enough?

I’ve asked these questions myself and I’ll bet you have too!

These questions often lead to self-blame, self-judgement and low self-esteem.

The thing about guilt is that it doesn’t just go away, yet there are steps that you can take to support yourself no matter where you are in your healing journey.

The first thing you can do is Recognize your Feelings.

If there is something that needs changing in your life, now is the time to create an awareness of that.

Then, whether there’s any truth to your feelings or not, Name It.

I feel guilty because…..

By not naming our feelings, whatever they are, we’re unable to come to terms with our loss and emotions.

Too often, our feelings of grief are buried deep in our psyche and we never get any real closure.

So what do we do next?

Recognize whose voice you’re listening to. 

Are you listening to the voice of truth? Or the voice of lies? The voice of your heart will always leave you feeling a sense of peace. The voice of guilt will leave you feeling constricted, fearful and feeling small.

I leave you with this… Choose the one that will raise your vibration to one of peace.

Seek Forgiveness.

This is a big one and its highly unlikely that you did anything wrong and certainly NO ONE blames you!

Forgiveness is for you and you alone. By forgiving yourself, you begin to release the hold that the feeling of guilt plays a part of in your life and allows a new feeling of peace to be created.

I love to use affirmations with my healing work and here are some that I thought you might enjoy too!

I am at peace.

I now release all guilt, struggle and blame.

I am full of love, compassion and peace for myself and my life.

I allow myself to soften and relax.

 

 

Come join our community of heart-centered women, where we come together here to support each other, share, connect and create new friendships through grief and healing.

Peace after Pregnancy Loss

 

 

Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She’s also an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting women as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred . Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.