A Message From My Child of Light

A Message From My Child of Light

Lately, I’ve been curious as to how our Children of Light are here to support those of us who are healers and space holders.

What I’m learning is that we’re definitely not alone in the work that we’re meant to do.  Our Light Children are here to take an active role in participating in our personal healing and our healing work.  This came through so strongly in a message I received from my son, Bodhi as I asked how our Light Children are here to support us.  His reply is below.

“We have chosen this work with you to assist in the spiritual healing of this planet through the wombs of our earth mothers.

It is where they create life and where healing begins.

Through the womb is where the energy of healing is birthed.

We work with you in sending out the vibrations of your energy field through the realms within which you choose to work.

Think of us as an extension of you, for that is what we are.

As we both chose this journey to expand through the portal of both life and death, we are here to do our work in Spirit, through you.

Think of a utensil that you would use in the kitchen.  With your own hands you can do so much, but add a spoon, whisk or grater and together, magic is made!

We are that extension.

We agreed that this experience would be your awakening and so it has on many levels.

Now you are entering a whole new experience by offering your gift of healing to others.

As you now have invited me to journey with you, I stand by your side and together our work is witnessed and fulfilled.

The same will be true with each woman who chooses to work within our energy field.

First, she must know her own healing and then with her Child of Light, as you say, together their healing work will spread across the planet.

Through the earth.

Across lifetimes.

Through ancestral lines.

Out through the cosmos.

There is no end in sight, for as we work in earth form and spirit form, all will know peace in their own way.

Light fields are expanded forwards and backwards across light fields.

When you choose to work with us, our light expands through portals of healing.

So, yes.  You wonder how we support you?

It is through the work of lifetimes together that you have chosen to awaken and heal with us, as a part of your experience and then, to expand your healing work beyond what can be imagined.

Yet trust.

And so it is.”

 

(In case you’re curious, often times our Children of Light present themselves as energy when they connect with me.  The image above is how Bodhi came through to me in this channeling.)

 

Tracey Swainson is a Reiki healer/teacher and intuitive mentor, passionate about supporting healers, space holders and intuitive business women, as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and emotional bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey guides women through their healing journey and holds space for them to awaken to and connect with their Children of Light, so they can birth their powerful work into the world.  Connect with Tracey via link tree and subscribe to her mailing list to receive monthly doses of heart-centered notes. https://linktr.ee/traceyswainson
Creating a Sacred Space for Pregnancy Loss

Creating a Sacred Space for Pregnancy Loss

Creating sacredness in my life after pregnancy loss.

When I first began my healing journey, I had no idea how to begin.  What I did recognize early on though, was that I desperately wanted to find a way to honor my initiation with death.

I wanted to create a space where my grief felt held.

I didn’t realize at the time that learning to honor grief would become an integral part of my life and my life’s work.

What I did know, was that I had held on to my grief for far too long and I needed a space to hold it.  Through this, I slowly began to learn how to honor my pregnancy losses and my babies.

 

This is where ritual became such an important part of my life.

I didn’t grow up with ritual in my life and so my grief work began.  I slowly began to step into spiritual practices.  This taught me to trust my intuition, honor my loss, and deepen into my own mystical ways.

 

What ritual offers us.

Ritual for pregnancy loss can be a catalyst to step deeper into your healing while creating a soulful connection with your baby in spirit.

One book that has been an integral part of my understanding of grief is The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller.  In his book, he says “Ritual offers us the two things required to fully let go of the grief we carry:  Containment and Release.  Containment offers the holding space for the ones in grief.  It provides the safe place to fall, to descend into the depths of both the known and unknown layers of sorrow.”

 

Three ways to allow ritual to support your grief of pregnancy loss.
  • Ritual can support you to honor your pregnancy, your baby loss as well as acknowledging that your child in spirit is and always will be a part of your life.
  • It connects us to what is sacred, bringing reverence, beauty, and peace to our lives.
  • It brings healing to our unprocessed grief. Giving space for what we’ve buried deep inside to become visible.

 

When crafting your rituals, it’s important to be intentional as you enter this sacred space. 

Ask yourself why you are crafting this ritual, what is the purpose of it, then be guided by all the senses as drop into the liminal space.

You might want to create a private space so you will be able to surrender, allowing your tears to flow as you consciously grieve the loss of your baby, in whatever way is right for you.  Be gentle with yourself and remember to breathe.

You may desire to have a special candle specifically for your ritual. Or essential oils to calm your energetic system, allowing it to relax.  You may desire to lay in a warm bath or listen to music as you move your body in a way that connects you with your soul. You may want to journal or write a letter to your child.

Surrender to the Divine all expectations as to how this must unfold, and trust what feels right and allow your soul to guide your healing journey.

And so, be guided by what feels right for you and let your soul lead the way.  May you find peace on your journey and your heart lead the way.

 

Tracey Swainson is a Reiki healer/teacher and intuitive mentor, passionate about supporting healers, space holders and intuitive business women, as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and emotional bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey guides women through their healing journey and holds space for them to awaken to and connect with their Children of Light, so they can birth their powerful work into the world.  Connect with Tracey via link tree and subscribe to her mailing list to receive monthly doses of heart-centered notes. https://linktr.ee/traceyswainson

 

 

Holding Space for Grief Triggers

Holding Space for Grief Triggers

A smell, a memory, a photo, a song.

They can all bring up memories that trigger an emotional response of grief, fear, sadness and so much more.

Grief can come in waves, even years after the fact.  Splashing on the surface of our soul, opening us up to memories long past; reminding us of our own vulnerability and that our healing is not yet complete.

The loss of a parent, child, spouse, pet, a baby – born or unborn; can drop us to our knees. Just as we think we’ve made peace with our loss, a new reminder lands on the shore of our heart, breaking us open once again. Reminding us that there is more healing to be done.

When we don’t have the space or the emotional ability to process our grief, we all too often bury it deep inside.

We grieve within the capacity that we are able to in the moment.  For some, it may take months and for others, like myself, it may take years.

Grief Triggers

 

These triggers arise, as reminders that there is something inside of us that we have not yet made peace with.

A question that often comes my way is: What can I do when I’m emotionally triggered and how do I handle the emotions that arise?

One of the first things you can do is RECOGNIZE YOUR TRIGGER

Ask yourself these questions….

What are my triggers?

What emotion is being activated?

Where do I feel this emotion in my body?

Does it have a color, shape or size?

Close your eyes and intuitively feel where this emotion resides within your body.  By giving yourself the space to take a step back and identify this feeling, you’re immediately able to ground and center your energy.

Grief Triggers

Next, CREATE SOME SPACE TO REFLECT

There are many practices that can support your reflection, one them in journaling.

I love to journal.  Journaling has absolutely been a life saver for me.  So, if this feels safe for you, I invite you to sit down and begin let your thoughts flow through your pen.

Take a deep breath and ask yourself some simple questions to get started and soon, you’ll find that your words are flowing.

Here are a few simple journal prompts that may be helpful to get you started:

My grief triggers are _____________________ and this is why they still produce these emotions inside of me _________.

My favorite memory of you is ___________________ and this is why __________________.

Even after all this time, I still find it difficult to say your name aloud and this is why _______________.

I’m going to honor you by _____________________.

 

FIND YOUR COMMUNITY

Grief is a lonely place to be and now more than ever, we need a supportive community to share our sorrow.  Whether you surround yourself with family and friends, seek a professional, counselor, healer or join a grief circle; there is strength in community.

In the days of our ancestors, our people would surround us.  We would not face our grief alone.  Yet today, we live in a culture where the emotions of grief are simply not accepted.  We’re encouraged to get back to work without having had time to grieve. We hide our emotions away and close off our heart, for fear of what others might say.

My story healing the heartache of pregnancy loss

HONORING OUR GRIEF THROUGH RITUAL

Francis Weller states in his book, “The Wild Edge of Sorrow” that “Ritual provides the elements necessary to help transform whatever it is we are carrying in our psyches.”

I’ve found this to be true over and over again.  Ritual is an essential part of our life and whether you’re aware of it or not, you probably have several that support your daily existence.  From rising in the morning and making your bed, showering and brushing your teeth.  These are simple tasks that you perform without even thinking of it and yet, without it, you may not function to the best of your ability throughout your day.

Healing rituals for grief are equally important for your mental, emotional and spiritual well-being; they can be as simple or as complex as you desire.  Grief rituals can be deeply supportive when you get hit by those triggers that seemingly “come out of nowhere.”

They exist to help navigate the rites of passage that we move through at different phases of our life, one of them being the loss of a loved one.  They create a container that allow you to channel your grief in a safe and sacred way.

Its important to set the intention that this ritual is being created to honor you and to release any grief that may still be stored within your body.

Rituals can be creative too.  Whether you are an artist or not, get out some paints, markers or even your kids’ crayons and let your emotions flow through you.

Your ritual may be as simple as lighting a candle in honor of your loved one. It may be taking a deep breath and releasing it with love. It may be going for a run, hike, walk or even doing yoga and letting those emotions be expressed through the expansiveness of your bodies’ movement.  You may choose to make a favorite meal, or celebrate your loved ones birthday.

Whatever it might be, it comes from your heart and honors you as you continue on your healing journey.

Grief Triggers

THE SACREDNESS OF GRIEF

It literally took me years to know this but there is a sacredness to grief.

Grief grants us the gift of compassion, for ourselves and others.  It offers us the gift of inner strength that we may never have known without this experience. We learn of forgiveness, grace and joy.  And, most importantly, we learn that even from the ashes, we are able to RISE.

 

 

Tracey Swainson is a Reiki healer/teacher and intuitive mentor, passionate about supporting healers and space holders as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and emotional bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey guides women through their healing journey and holds space for them to awaken to and connect with their Child of Light, so they can birth their powerful work into the world Connect with Tracey via linktree and subscribe to her mailing list to receive monthly doses of heart-centered notes. https://linktr.ee/traceyswainson.
7 Tips to Support Yourself Through Grief

7 Tips to Support Yourself Through Grief

What do you do when facing the emotions of grief?

How do meet your grief and let it move through you, rather than repress it or hold it at a distance?

All too often, in moments of deep grief and sadness, we bury our emotions deep inside, hoping they’ll disappear, never to see the light of day again. The thing is, grief is fluid. Its meant to move through us.

Trying to hide it away, is similar to trying to force a beach ball under water.  You know its going to burst out and you have no idea where it will go from there.

As a society of Western culture, we’re not taught how to hold space for our emotions of grief and I actually find that this is one of the questions most often asked by my clients.  How can I feel safe creating space for my grief?

So, I’ve made a list of 7 ways that you can support yourself through this emotional time and I’m certain that there is something here that will be supportive for you.

 

JOURNAL

Whenever I mention journaling, I get mixed reactions from people; either they love it or its simply not their thing.  I do understand.  When I first began my own healing journey, I couldn’t imagine putting my private thoughts down on paper, it didn’t feel safe for me.  I was willing to try though, and it was my saving grace. To this day I journal nearly every day.

Journaling gives your inner world a voice, it offers an expression to emotions long silenced.  So, if this might be something that interests you but you simply don’t know where to begin, try by stating how you feel.  What is your emotion? Why are you feeling that way? Where in your body are feeling that emotion? Journaling doesn’t have to be complicated.  Its simply a way to safely express your thoughts and emotions.

You can begin a gratitude list.

You can put pen to paper or fingers to keyboard and just allow your thoughts to free-flow, with no expectation or judgement of what comes through you.

This is a time of reflection, connection, release and honoring you.

 

ALLOW YOUR SADNESS TO FLOW THROUGH YOU

Here is a simple practice.  Whether sitting or standing, place both feet firmly on the ground.  Take a nice deep breath inward and hold for 2 or 3 seconds. As you exhale, imagine your sadness moving through your breathe from your tummy, through your lungs and then breathe out with a sigh.  Do this again a few more times, moving your body if you feel the desire to, letting your emotions move with your breath.  Once you’ve done these two or three times, check in with your body. Does it feel softer, more relaxed? If not, do this breath practice again and then on completion, take a moment to give thanks to your breath for allowing your sadness to flow through it.

 

CRYSTALS FOR GRIEF

Rose Quartz:  I’ve carried rose quartz in my pockets, laid it under my pillow and kept it close by my journal when I write. I love this crystal! The rose quartz is wonderful to support the heart during times of heavy grief and sadness.

Apache Tears:  There’s a legend that goes with this stone which you can look up, but Apache Tears is very supportive during grief and helps to keep you in the present moment rather than the past.

Ruby Zoisite:  Another favorite, this beautiful green and ruby crystal is helpful to release heartache.

 

CEREMONY

This can be as simple or sacred as you like. Ceremony is helpful for closure on your healing journey. You could plant a tree in memory of your loved one or gather your family, light a candle and say a prayer or write a poem that you’ll always treasure.  You could create a prayer tree – have some ribbon and pieces of colored paper, pass them around so everyone can write a memory, a prayer or poem in memory of your loved one and then have them tie their prayers on a tree.  Each of these can then be keepsake for times that you need some extra emotional support. Whatever it is, make this exactly what you need to support your healing.

 

ABSOLUTE ROSE OIL

Just a tiny drop on your finger to gently massage into your heart. (both front and back) When your heart feels broken, this will support you to keep an open heart.

 

CLEAR THE ENERGY OF YOUR SPACE

Burn some sage, a bay leaf, incense, ring a crystal bell or use some of your favorite essential oils in a diffuser to clear any negative energy in your home. Set your intention for any energy that does not serve you, to pass through your home and then call in the energy your desire to fill this space. Be sure to open a window or two to all the smoke and negative energy to pass through your home.

 

CREATE A SACRED MEMORY BOX

This can be such a special opportunity to pour your heart into something beautiful for yourself and your loved one. In here, you can place your journal or any treasures that are meaningful to you. Sometimes you need to do something creative when your feelings are just so overwhelming and creating a memory box can be so comforting.

 

 

Tracey Swainson is a Reiki healer/teacher and intuitive mentor, passionate about supporting healers and space holders as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and emotional bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey guides women through their healing journey and holds space for them to awaken to and connect with their Child of Light, so they can birth their powerful work into the world Connect with Tracey via linktree and subscribe to her mailing list to receive monthly doses of heart-centered notes. https://linktr.ee/traceyswainson
Rituals of Remembrance at Christmas

Rituals of Remembrance at Christmas

Rituals of Remembrance at Christmas

 

The Christmas season is the perfect time of year to honor our loved ones who have passed.  Be it Grandparents, parents, aunts & uncles, spouse, children, born and unborn babies and yes, even our pets.

Though we may find it deeply emotional, keeping our memories alive, can be so very healing.

Imagine sitting around the Christmas tree on Christmas Eve, or gathering with family or friends for a special meal. As we look around, seeing those we love close by and yet our heart aches for those who are no longer with us.

 

Instead of letting the holiday pass in silence of our loved ones, why not bring them into our space?

 

  • You may want to place candles on the table and invite the family to say the name of your loved one as you light the candle.

 

  • Create a Memory Table with your grandmothers’ favorite dish or your brothers’ favorite food. (It doesn’t matter that it doesn’t match the dinner menu, you’re taking some time to honor the one you love.)

 

  • I love the idea of keeping memories alive for the children. Setting up photos of family and friends who have passed and letting each person present, share a memory.  This keeps memories alive for everyone and especially for children who may not have known their grandparents, aunts or uncles.

 

  • Raise a toast in honor of your loved ones.

 

  • Send cards to your loved one’s closest friends, they’ll cherish the gesture and will feel a special connection with you.

 

  • Invite the children to create a Christmas Memory Ornament for the tree, with your loved one’s name or favorite color.

 

  • Set a place at the table in honor of your loved one.

 

  • I know Christmas can feel empty for parents who have lost a born or unborn baby. Christmas is a perfect time to honor your little one.  You could have an ornament made for your tree to be put up each and every year.

 

  • If you had a pet pass away, you may want to create an ornament with their photo and name placed on it, in memory of your fur baby.

 

  • If your loved one had a favorite charity or passion in life, you could donate in honor of them.

 

If grief has been present in your life for far too long and you’re curious as to how we can work together, then I invite you to schedule a complimentary 30-minute chat and let’s see if my work will be a good fit for you.

 

Peace and Blessings, Tracey

Tracey Swainson is a Reiki healer/teacher and intuitive mentor, passionate about supporting healers and space holders as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and emotional bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey guides women through their healing journey and holds space for them to awaken to and connect with their Child of Light, so they can birth their powerful work into the world Connect with Tracey via linktree and subscribe to her mailing list to receive monthly doses of heart-centered notes. https://linktr.ee/traceyswainson

Creating Christmas Magic after Pregnancy Loss

Creating Christmas Magic after Pregnancy Loss

It’s that magical time of year.

Bright, colorful lights;

Family gatherings around tables of our favourite food;

Twinkling eyes of children, waiting in anticipation for their favorite jolly guy in his bright red suit;

And a new hope for what might come in the New Year!

Yet for you, your heart may feel broken, maybe tears are welling up in your eyes.

If your still in pain after having lost a pregnancy, this time of year can be particularly lonely. You feel empty inside and the joy of others might make you want to crawl under the covers until the New Year.

If you’re still healing from the heartache of pregnancy loss, I would love to share some ideas with you to help you bring some magic back into your holiday.

  • Give yourself Permission

Holiday gatherings can be overwhelming with well-intentioned, somewhat misguided comments from loving family or being in close proximity to pregnant friends and small children. At times like this, give yourself permission to excuse yourself early or politely bow out of even attending a gathering this year. Emotions after a pregnancy loss can run high and these settings may just add to your levels of stress.  At the same time, a change of scenery can help lift your spirits, so listen to your heart and follow its lead.

  • Gratitude

I know, I know. You hear this so much that you’re thinking, Pulleassse!  My heart might feels so numb and broken, how can I possibly feel grateful?!  I get it, yet the reality is, choosing gratitude will lift your spirits and at the same time, it helps you to see the little miracles around you. Just simply going through the motions of gratitude, sparks some simple changes, even without your awareness. A simple smile, a warm hug, a thank you. Just give it a try, before you get out of bed in the morning and before your eyes close at night, think of three things your grateful for. You can write them down or say them out loud but do this for 10 days and see how your list begins to grow.

  • Light a Candle

There’s something so peaceful about lighting a candle and no one else needs to know the purpose of it, if you don’t want to share it with them. On the eve of your holiday, light a candle in remembrance. As the wick begins to burn, set the intention that you are holding space for your baby and the healing of your broken dreams, as you send out your love to your little one.   There’s something very comforting about this and you can even do it as you sit down for your family dinner, knowing that you are sending blessings out to all you love.

  • Hold a Ceremony

This is a beautiful time of year to hold a ceremony of any kind but especially for your baby.  If you have family or friends that are aware of your loss, use this time to have your nearest and dearest support you.  Choose a space that feels safe for you, physically, mentally and emotionally. Make it sacred.

Have everyone bring a candle that you can each light to honor your baby. You could ask someone to read a poem or you could write a letter to your little one.  Whether you read it out loud or lay it near your circle of candles, just do what’s right for you.

This is a time of remembering, of honoring and releasing. You may want to say a prayer or choose a special blessing.  Just know that this is all for you, trust what feels right.

When you’re ready, you could plant your letter under a special tree or flower or even burn it and release it to the heavens.

In closing, ask those who gathered with you to write a message of hope.  Each message could then be tied with a ribbon to your tree or placed in a special box for you to read in your own time.

Distinguish your candles and thank everyone for all they brought to your space.

 

 

Tracey Swainson is a Reiki healer/teacher and intuitive mentor, passionate about supporting healers and space holders as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and emotional bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey guides women through their healing journey and holds space for them to awaken to and connect with their Child of Light, so they can birth their powerful work into the world Connect with Tracey via linktree and subscribe to her mailing list to receive monthly doses of heart-centered notes. https://linktr.ee/traceyswainson.