Rituals of Remembrance at Christmas
The Christmas season is the perfect time of year to honor our loved ones who have passed. Be it Grandparents, parents, aunts & uncles, spouse, children, born and unborn babies and yes, even our pets.
Though we may find it deeply emotional, keeping our memories alive, can be so very healing.
Imagine sitting around the Christmas tree on Christmas Eve, or gathering with family or friends for a special meal. As we look around, seeing those we love close by and yet our heart aches for those who are no longer with us.
Instead of letting the holiday pass in silence of our loved ones, why not bring them into our space?
- You may want to place candles on the table and invite the family to say the name of your loved one as you light the candle.
- Create a Memory Table with your grandmothers’ favorite dish or your brothers’ favorite food. (It doesn’t matter that it doesn’t match the dinner menu, you’re taking some time to honor the one you love.)
- I love the idea of keeping memories alive for the children. Setting up photos of family and friends who have passed and letting each person present, share a memory. This keeps memories alive for everyone and especially for children who may not have known their grandparents, aunts or uncles.
- Raise a toast in honor of your loved ones.
- Send cards to your loved one’s closest friends, they’ll cherish the gesture and will feel a special connection with you.
- Invite the children to create a Christmas Memory Ornament for the tree, with your loved one’s name or favorite color.
- Set a place at the table in honor of your loved one.
- I know Christmas can feel empty for parents who have lost a born or unborn baby. Christmas is a perfect time to honor your little one. You could have an ornament made for your tree to be put up each and every year.
- If you had a pet pass away, you may want to create an ornament with their photo and name placed on it, in memory of your fur baby.
- If your loved one had a favorite charity or passion in life, you could donate in honor of them.
If grief has been present in your life for far too long and you’re curious as to how we can work together, then I invite you to schedule a complimentary 30-minute chat and let’s see if my work will be a good fit for you.
Peace and Blessings, Tracey
HEALING GRIEF WITH REIKI
If you’ve heard my story, you know that Reiki was a primary factor on my healing journey.
After years of pushing my sadness deep inside because I simply didn’t have the tools or understanding as to how do deal with grief, my sadness reached a point where it bubbled up and out into every aspect of my life.
I knew I had to do something and someone had suggested Reiki to me. I had never heard of it and was pretty skeptical at the time. Yet, I knew I didn’t want to go on, feeling the way I did.
I sought out a Reiki teacher and booked myself in for my first class without even having experienced Reiki for myself, I just knew I needed this!
WHAT IS REIKI?
For those who aren’t too sure, Reiki is a Japanese technique used for stress reduction and relaxation. It’s known for promoting healing all aspects of our body. Emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally. Often times, it has been offered by laying hands on the body, though they can be held slightly above the body too. It’s been used for thousands of years and the word Reiki actually comes from two Japanese words – Rei and Ki. REI meaning – Higher Knowledge and KI meaning Life Energy.
This Life Energy plays such an important role in our healing journey.
REIKI FOR GRIEF
While Reiki is beneficial for many purposes, as my work is specifically for grief, that’s what I’ll be talking about here.
For those of us who are on a grief journey, you know what grief can do to our bodies. It takes a great deal of energy to grieve. Our heart feels broken, our body feels beaten down and we may feel exhausted on every level!. This is where Reiki comes in.
Our bodies are made of energy and when we feel depleted, Reiki supports us in the most incredible ways.
HERE ARE JUST A FEW WAYS REIKI CAN SUPPORT US ON OUR GRIEF JOURNEY
Relaxes muscle tension
Supports deep relaxation for sound sleep
Reduces blood pressure
Promotes peace and a positive outlook
Many of these symptoms can be associated to our grief journey and its no wonder that so many people, myself included, turn to this gentle yet healing energy to support their body, mind and spirit after suffering a loss of any kind.
My journey to Reiki was one in which allowed me to turn a corner with grief. After years of holding on to grief; sadness, shame, memories and so much more, Reiki became a welcome support for me. Over time, I continued my training and became certified as a Reiki Master/Teacher.
If you or someone you know, has experienced grief in whatever form it may take, please know that I am here to support you on your healing journey.
I welcome you to reach out. I offer both in-person and online healing sessions. Just click this link to schedule a time that works for you.
May you experience compassion, peace and grace through grief,
THE DANCE OF GRIEF
There is no one way that is right. Its what’s right for you.
“Grief never ends… But it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith… It is the price of love.”
I see Grief as a Dance.
You may go left, and then right. You may go forward for a few weeks and then back. There is a flow to this dance that we’ve been invited to participate in, at this moment, at this time in life.
We move in the direction that feels right, its our dance.
What feels right for you, may be completely different for me. We are all in different stages of our dance.
Through it all, keep watch for the blessings that come your way. Be grateful, for even the smallest joys.
One day you may realize, that you have the strength to support someone else who may be where you were in the last stage of your dance.
Remember, this dance is yours.
Be patient, kind and respectful of yourself.
Do it your way. Dance with grace.
Be gentle with yourself when you need gentleness.
Be strong, when you need strength.
Dance Your Way.💗
If you know the grief of pregnancy loss, then I invite you to join my Facebook group, Peace after Pregnancy Loss.
This space is perfect for moms and dads who have experienced pregnancy loss at any time in your life, as it’s never too late to feel peace after pregnancy loss!
PEACE AFTER PREGNANCY LOSS
Seeds of Grace…
There’s something about this word, Grace, that feels like a deep call from my soul, a remembering.
Each year, I choose a new word to guide me, to reach toward. A word that will help me to grow into the person I desire to become.
I chose my word(s) for this year and here we are in June; I can see already how far I’ve come with those words as my guiding force.
Yet; there is another word that keeps rising from deep inside. GRACE. I have a feeling this will be my word for 2019.
She leads me already. Whispering, guiding me, filling me up and making me feel whole.
Lean toward grace is another phrase that rises from deep within.
With all of this, its difficult to say exactly what grace is.
Even Saint Augustine asked the question….
“What is grace?
I know until you ask me; when you ask me, I do not know.” – Saint Augustine
I feel as though I’ve barely touched the surface of it.
The dictionary explains it as:
NOUN – simple elegance or refinement of movement.
VERB – do honor or credit to (someone or something) by one’s presence.
And yet, it feels much more than this.
I watch the birds fly through the air, and they move with such grace. I see the look in my pets eyes, and I see unconditional love there.
It’s something that has called me since I began this path of awakening or spiritual awareness. Its what I feel in moments of pure joy.
I feel it rising in me Every. Single. Time. that I give Reiki to a client. It’s an energy that flows from deep inside, up through my heart and out through my hands.
I once did a future visualization to meet the woman that is my guide, 20 years in my future. When I asked her name, she simply stated Grace. It wasn’t until the end of this visualization that I realized that woman is actually me, my future self, and her name is Grace. This left me in awe, and still does today!
Grace is a virtue that I long to embrace.
When I’ve experienced it, I felt unconditional love, pure joy, peace and ultimately, compassion.
I recently had a moment that deeply affected me. I was shocked at how deeply I felt these emotions and yet it gave me a profound awareness of some deep rooted emotional pain that needed to be healed. I would not have been aware of this, had I not had the experience. Through all of this, I was blessed with a friend who showed me true grace. It was through her selfless expression of grace, truth and compassion, that made all of this rise up inside of me once again.
It was another seed that had been planted.
We’ve all experienced moments of grace, even if we couldn’t exactly put our finger on it. So how do I experience it?
I experience Grace through Compassion. Beauty. Peace. Strength. Truth. Gratitude. Joy. Love. Gentleness. Kindness. All of these and so much more!
What about you? I would love to hear how you have experienced grace in your life?
The world needs more grace.
Let’s continue planting these seeds!
Healing through Acceptance is a process…
We seldom consider the experience that our heart, mind and body must go through to reach this place of acceptance, to allow our experience to process in area of our life, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.
Healing is a time of transformation; as we release the dreams, heartache and sorrow to make room for something new.
In order to heal, we must be willing to release and more often then not, there is a breakdown before there is breakthrough. In my experience, I’ve noticed that the journey to healing comes in waves.
Just when you feel like you finally have control, that you’ve fully accepted your circumstances and all is smooth sailing, along comes a rogue wave that sends you crashing to the depths, feeling the pain all over again!
It took me years to find peace with the loss of my pregnancies. There were times that I felt like it was all water under the bridge, and then I would see children the age that mine would be, walking to school, riding bikes, just living life and the wave would wash over me once again. Bringing up all the emotions long buried, feeling the heartache all over again.
It wasn’t until I finally became aware that I hadn’t truly accepted the fact that I was not going to be a mother, that this lifetime would pass me by without having the opportunity to experience all that motherhood entailed, did I finally genuinely embrace the courage to release my heartache.
What I’ve found with healing, is that the memory never leaves;
The sadness is always a small undercurrent of emotion, I still shed tears and feel the emptiness at times; but with acceptance comes peace and slowly a transformation takes place.
Let your heart be your guide. It knows what’s best for you.
- Be sure to give your body rest, to nourish it with nutritious food and strengthen it with exercise.
- Create some space for joy!
- Share your story in whatever way you can, as speaking of your loss brings healing.
- If you have no one to share with, then write. Pour your heart and soul into writing, and amazing soulful healing take place within your heart.
It’s been 16 years now since my first miscarriage, with several others to follow and though at times the sadness is still felt in my heart and the tears still flow, I now hold it in a different space.
Where in the past, I felt such shame and heartache, I now have an appreciation for the life that I have and for the people I share my life with. I find new ways to be grateful.
My hope is that in being open with my journey, that it will allow you to find peace with yours.
Every woman who heals herself, heals all the women who came before her and all the women who come after her. – Dr. Christine Northrup
Photo Credit: Antonina Bukowska
What does it mean to heal?
- (of a person or treatment) cause (a wound, injury, or person) to become sound or healthy again.
- To make or become well again.
I am passionate about helping women heal their stories.
When a woman heals her own heart, she not only heals her story but that of her mother, her grandmothers, her ancestors and all her daughters yet to come. Her whole world receives the blessing of this healing.
The journey through self-healing is not an easy road; it asks of you to connect with your shadow self, to view it through the lens of love and light. It can bring up painful memories of the past, memories long buried. Yet by shining love into those dark spaces you allow for personal healing to begin. This takes so much courage and not everyone is able to go there.
What are you ready to heal?
The heartache of a lost baby, born or unborn? The story of your past?
Words spoken that hurt so deeply you can still feel the pain today? Actions of others that have left an imprint on your heart and soul?
All of these are like shackles that keep you from living the life of your dreams; they hold you down, they hold you back. Keeping you in the past.
I’ve been there. I understand the heartache. I also know how freeing it can be to make that decision to heal your past, to release the pain.
I honor the journey that you’re taking, I know the courage that lies within you;
As you begin this healing journey, know this…
You already have everything within you that you need to heal.
Support your inner healing and personal growth with sacred self-care.
And remember, the strength of all those sisters who came before you; most did the best they could with what they knew and the spirit within them, also lies within you.
You are an amazing, courageous woman, you have within you the power to change your world.
When one woman heals, magic happens!
- Her heart is filled with compassion;
- Peace lights her soul;
- Inner darkness transforms into light;
- Gratitude now lights her way;
- Feelings of emptiness make room for new purpose;
- Her healing creates a foundation of inner strength that cannot be broken.
Every woman who heals herself, heals all the women who came before her and all the women who come after her. – Dr. Christine Northrup
If you’ve got questions or would you like to have support through your healing journey,
I invite you to connect with me for a free 20 minute Soul Care Call