How do we hear the whispers of our soul in the midst of deep, unprocessed grief?
It’s in those quiet moments. The ones with no other distractions. Its the feeling deep inside that yearns for peace.
The longing for the ecstasy of pure joy.
The desire for a new experience, adventure, career or to deepen our spiritual practice.
The yearning to belong.
We feel this in the stillness. We hear these whispers from deep inside.
The trouble with unresolved grief is that it takes up so much of our emotional capacity that it can be difficult to open up to what we truly long for.
Through the grieving process, we sometimes begin to take on new beliefs.
Beliefs that tell us, Life is hard or I feel so broken. What if I’m not enough? Why did this happen to me? or It was so long ago, why should I bother trying?
These and many more statements are what we take on and over time, become blocks that keep us from feeling whole and complete.
This state of mind leaves us feeling broken and dis-empowered. However, as we open to our healing journey and begin to make peace with our past, we see that these are statements held in the midst of deep pain.
They are not truths.
We might feel out of alignment and this often becomes a journey of its own. A seeking to know our truth.
As we become more aware, we begin to realize that we have not been listening to our heart-centered self, our soul.
An easy way to begin to make this shift is to start a gratitude practice. Whether you write what you’re grateful for in a journal or consciously notice on waking in the morning what you’re grateful for, gratitude changes everything.
We slowly begin to notice the thoughts that used to be “Why did this happen to me?” shift to “Life is happening for me!”
This in itself is empowerment!
“In Stillness lives wisdom.
In Quiet you’ll find peace.
In Solitude, you’ll remember yourself.”
– Robin Sharma
Its so true; in the stillness we notice new feelings, thoughts or ideas that will lead us to discovering our true, authentic self. We feel the sun begin to rise again within our being, with a new sense of joy. We begin to remember!
When we are open to hearing the whispers of our soul, our long-buried emotions can become our greatest messengers of healing and emotional freedom, creating an opportunity to transform our grief and live a more empowered, fulfilling life.
As peace seekers, change makers, visionaries and creatives, we are here to share our medicine in a deep capacity and yet, as the saying goes, we cannot serve from an empty cup. It is possible to create space for our inner healing and serve others, without losing the sacredness of the journey. We must learn to sit in the stillness and listen to what is rising from deep within, so we may find our way to inner peace through our intuition, the whispers of our soul.
Take some time over the next week to just get quiet. Getting out in nature always works for me, but do what feels good for you. In the stillness, allow yourself to be a witness to the whispers from your soul. What do you long for? What changes are you ready to make? What are you inviting into your life?
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Do you know that feeling deep inside?
It keeps calling out to you.
It comes in your dreams.
It calls out to you through the day.
It whispers to you.
You turn your back on it.
Is it really calling you?
You try to distract yourself from it.
It’s always there.
No matter where you are or what you do, it calls out louder.
It wakes you in the night,
You become restless,
No matter how you try,
YOUR CALLING, IS CALLING YOU.
Can you hear it?
Is it a soft whisper?
Is it an ache in your heart?
You can do this.
You are ready.
Take that step,
The Universe is holding you,
The Angels support you,
The Goddesses surround you,
Step fully into all you are meant to be.
You were born to do this.
Photo Credit: Alex Iby
Making peace with the loss of my babies has been a long journey that, has my heart filled with so much joy.
There was a time, in the depths of my heartache that I would never have believed this. My emotional wounds felt so deep and dark; yet sadly I hung on to them like a baby holds onto its blankie.
How is it that the thing we fear, that creates such anxiety and shame within our life becomes the monster that we have such difficulty letting go of. For me, it was my multiple miscarriages, but not just that, it was everything that I allowed to become attached to that.
Anger, Depression, Shame, Envy, Isolation, Hopelessness, Inadequate, There must be something wrong with me. This and so much more was attached to the loss of my babies. It became a monster that I felt I couldn’t fight, so I gave in. I lost my power.
I clearly remember the moment, that I looked in the mirror and actually said out loud, “I’m done, I don’t want to carry the heartache another day.”
“Universe, I give this to you.”
Literally, six days later, I began to feel my heartache begin to heal.
The sadness, anxiety, emptiness… began to fade away.
I felt so much peace, as though I was floating on a cloud. I could feel the peace, like rays of sunshine, shining through the depths of my sadness, carrying the heavy sadness away.
In the weeks that followed, something else began to happen. I began to find my power. Now, I am learning self-love, I’m learning to honor my truth. I’m creating space for everything I always wanted but felt so unworthy of.
I heard Gabby Bernstein say that “when you say YES to healing, the healing is presented to you in a very profound way.”
I can say with absolute certainty that this is true!
How do you know that you’re ready to create space for healing in your life?
- You feel your sadness, anxiety or fears as though there’s a heaviness within your heart and you are SO tired of carrying this weight around.
- You begin to recognize that there’s something you desire, if only you could get past ________________________ (fill in the blank, what is your monster?)
- In the stillness of space, you realize that you are beginning to see you life in a whole new light, despite the burden you carry.
So when you are ready to release your heartache, anxiety, fears or whatever may be holding you back, let the Universe know, and an opportunity WILL present itself to create a space of healing and fill your heart with soulful peace.
If you are ready to heal your heartache of pregnancy loss at a deep soul level, if you’re tired of carrying the weight of sadness and need to speak with someone who has been where you are, I invite you to experience this Journey of Sacred Love Healing.
This is a 1:1 Intensive Session that offers soul work, intuitive guidance and energy healing, creating a container for you to feel seen, heard, held and understood, so that you are able to heal your pain of loss and begin to feel a new sense of peace.
If you’ve got questions or would you like to have support through your healing journey,
I invite you to connect with me for a free 20 minute Soul Care Call
What is that thing that makes your heart sing,
That, in the dark of night you can see the light.
Shining bright and lighting your way,
Take courage, dear one, today is your day
You have a gift, its time to shine,
Fear no more, you will be fine.
Hold your stake, hold it high,
Your fire is burning deep inside.
Know with certainty, your truth inside,
Embrace your destiny, do not hide.
They say “The Magic happens just outside your comfort zone!”
As an introvert, I’ve allowed my insecurities associated with that to hold me back.
What has really held me back? FEAR.
At my heart, I am an adventurous person!
Along with my family I once lived in the wilderness of northern Canada, miles from civilization! For many years, we had no electricity, no running water, we grew our own food and lived off the land. It was a hard life but it fueled the adventurous spirit in me.
I traveled alone to Australia, when many thought I shouldn’t go alone!
If I had not followed my heart, I would not have met my future husband!
I would not have lived in New Zealand; I would not have realized my love for senior citizens (I landed a great job as a caregiver in N.Z.)
I would not have taken a back-packing trip with my husband through Australia, Europe and South-East Asia, where an unplanned detour took us to Sumatra at a time when there were street demonstrations and riots triggered by economic issues. We managed to get out on one of the last small, wooden boats where we sat on the roof on bags of lime leaves with a CNN crew! It was an adventure of a lifetime!
It pays to follow your heart. To trust your intuition.
Other Fears Conquered:
I went snorkeling over the Great Barrier Reef and I can’t even swim! (I trusted complete strangers to stay by my side)
I’ve always hated running as a sport, but after months of training, I ran and completed a half marathon!
I jumped out of an airplane from 10,000’ with a free-fall of 45 seconds! I have to admit, there was complete terror at the thought of
this, but after the jump… I wanted to do it again! I pushed through my fear and came out exhilarated with the experience!
Somehow though, when it came to actually putting myself “out there” it felt different. I listened to the gremlin of my inner critic for far too long and doubted my ability to be the person I wanted to be. I allowed insecurities to grow as I compared myself to others, allowing my confidence to shrink and nearly disappear.
What I am learning is that COURAGE is not staying right where you are and hoping something might miraculously change. Fears will always be with us in one form or another however, having the courage to step outside that comfort zone and take a risk; that is empowerment! Its stepping into who you really are, your true authentic self, which goes a long way toward turning fears into courage.
Take courage and follow your heart!