How do we hear the whispers of our soul in the midst of deep, unprocessed grief?
It’s in those quiet moments. The ones with no other distractions. Its the feeling deep inside that yearns for peace.
The longing for the ecstasy of pure joy.
The desire for a new experience, adventure, career or to deepen our spiritual practice.
The yearning to belong.
We feel this in the stillness. We hear these whispers from deep inside.
The trouble with unresolved grief is that it takes up so much of our emotional capacity that it can be difficult to open up to what we truly long for.
Through the grieving process, we sometimes begin to take on new beliefs.
Beliefs that tell us, Life is hard or I feel so broken. What if I’m not enough? Why did this happen to me? or It was so long ago, why should I bother trying?
These and many more statements are what we take on and over time, become blocks that keep us from feeling whole and complete.
This state of mind leaves us feeling broken and dis-empowered. However, as we open to our healing journey and begin to make peace with our past, we see that these are statements held in the midst of deep pain.
They are not truths.
We might feel out of alignment and this often becomes a journey of its own. A seeking to know our truth.
As we become more aware, we begin to realize that we have not been listening to our heart-centered self, our soul.
An easy way to begin to make this shift is to start a gratitude practice. Whether you write what you’re grateful for in a journal or consciously notice on waking in the morning what you’re grateful for, gratitude changes everything.
We slowly begin to notice the thoughts that used to be “Why did this happen to me?” shift to “Life is happening for me!”
This in itself is empowerment!
“In Stillness lives wisdom.
In Quiet you’ll find peace.
In Solitude, you’ll remember yourself.”
– Robin Sharma
Its so true; in the stillness we notice new feelings, thoughts or ideas that will lead us to discovering our true, authentic self. We feel the sun begin to rise again within our being, with a new sense of joy. We begin to remember!
When we are open to hearing the whispers of our soul, our long-buried emotions can become our greatest messengers of healing and emotional freedom, creating an opportunity to transform our grief and live a more empowered, fulfilling life.
As peace seekers, change makers, visionaries and creatives, we are here to share our medicine in a deep capacity and yet, as the saying goes, we cannot serve from an empty cup. It is possible to create space for our inner healing and serve others, without losing the sacredness of the journey. We must learn to sit in the stillness and listen to what is rising from deep within, so we may find our way to inner peace through our intuition, the whispers of our soul.
Take some time over the next week to just get quiet. Getting out in nature always works for me, but do what feels good for you. In the stillness, allow yourself to be a witness to the whispers from your soul. What do you long for? What changes are you ready to make? What are you inviting into your life?
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Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of those who are ready to make peace with their unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.
We’ve been talking about the different emotions of grief that we might experience and this week is all about GUILT!
What it is. How it affects us and some coping skills to support us through this!
Now we all experience guilt throughout our lives from childhood and beyond, but this week we’re talking about how we allow guilt to express its nasty negativity at a time in our life when we’re feeling so vulnerable!
After Pregnancy Loss.
Guilt can mess with our mind and make us believe things about ourselves that simply aren’t true.
It creates a space of self-blame or repressed anger, that we put on ourselves rather than expressing it verbally toward someone else. It eats away on our nerves and effects us mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
I found this quote by Louise Hay and it really made me think!
“Guilt is a totally useless emotion. It never makes anyone feel better, nor does it change a situation”. Louise Hay – You Can Heal Your Life.
How true is that?!
Guilt is a useless emotion that we use to punish ourselves rather than show compassion and forgiveness to the part of us that is in pain!
When we experience Guilt, we feel as though we’ve done something wrong and the questions of WHAT IF? WHY ME? WHAT DID I DO WRONG? IF ONLY? AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH?
Each of these begin to play a big role in our thought process!
What if? What if I had been healthier? What if I had taken better care of my body?
Why me? I wanted that baby so badly. Why can some women have babies so easily?
What did I do wrong? I thought I was doing everything right, how could this have happened? How could I have prevented this?
Am I not good enough?
I’ve asked these questions myself and I’ll bet you have too!
These questions often lead to self-blame, self-judgement and low self-esteem.
The thing about guilt is that it doesn’t just go away, yet there are steps that you can take to support yourself no matter where you are in your healing journey.
The first thing you can do is Recognize your Feelings.
If there is something that needs changing in your life, now is the time to create an awareness of that.
Then, whether there’s any truth to your feelings or not, Name It.
I feel guilty because…..
By not naming our feelings, whatever they are, we’re unable to come to terms with our loss and emotions.
Too often, our feelings of grief are buried deep in our psyche and we never get any real closure.
So what do we do next?
Recognize whose voice you’re listening to.
Are you listening to the voice of truth? Or the voice of lies? The voice of your heart will always leave you feeling a sense of peace. The voice of guilt will leave you feeling constricted, fearful and feeling small.
I leave you with this… Choose the one that will raise your vibration to one of peace.
This is a big one and its highly unlikely that you did anything wrong and certainly NO ONE blames you!
Forgiveness is for you and you alone. By forgiving yourself, you begin to release the hold that the feeling of guilt plays a part of in your life and allows a new feeling of peace to be created.
I love to use affirmations with my healing work and here are some that I thought you might enjoy too!
I am at peace.
I now release all guilt, struggle and blame.
I am full of love, compassion and peace for myself and my life.
I allow myself to soften and relax.
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Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She’s also an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting women as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred . Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.
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