Soul Whispers

Soul Whispers

How do we hear the whispers of our soul in the midst of deep, unprocessed grief?

 

 

It’s in those quiet moments.  The ones with no other distractions.  Its the feeling deep inside that yearns for peace.

The longing for the ecstasy of pure joy.

The desire for a new experience, adventure, career or to deepen our spiritual practice.

The yearning to belong.

We feel this in the stillness. We hear these whispers from deep inside.

The trouble with unresolved grief is that it takes up so much of our emotional capacity that it can be difficult to open up to what we truly long for.

 

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Through the grieving process, we sometimes begin to take on new beliefs.

Beliefs that tell us, Life is hard or I feel so broken. What if I’m not enough? Why did this happen to me? or It was so long ago, why should I bother trying?

These and many more statements are what we take on and over time, become blocks that keep us from feeling whole and complete.

This state of mind leaves us feeling broken and dis-empowered. However, as we open to our healing journey and begin to make peace with our past, we see that these are statements held in the midst of deep pain.

They are not truths.

We might feel out of alignment and this often becomes a journey of its own.  A seeking to know our truth.

As we become more aware, we begin to realize that we have not been listening to our heart-centered self, our soul.

An easy way to begin to make this shift is to start a gratitude practice.  Whether you write what you’re grateful for in a journal or consciously notice on waking in the morning what you’re grateful for, gratitude changes everything.

We slowly begin to notice the thoughts that used to be “Why did this happen to me?” shift to “Life is happening for me!”

This in itself is empowerment!

 

“In Stillness lives wisdom.
In Quiet you’ll find peace.
In Solitude, you’ll remember yourself.”
– Robin Sharma

Its so true; in the stillness we notice new feelings, thoughts or ideas that will lead us to discovering our true, authentic self.  We feel the sun begin to rise again within our being, with a new sense of joy.  We begin to remember!

 

 

my story of healing the heartache of pregnancy loss

 

 

When we are open to hearing the whispers of our soul, our long-buried emotions can become our greatest messengers of healing and emotional freedom, creating an opportunity to transform our grief and live a more empowered, fulfilling life.

As peace seekers, change makers, visionaries and creatives, we are here to share our medicine in a deep capacity and yet, as the saying goes, we cannot serve from an empty cup.  It is possible to create space for our inner healing and serve others, without losing the sacredness of the journey.  We must learn to sit in the stillness and listen to what is rising from deep within, so we may find our way to inner peace through our intuition, the whispers of our soul.

 

In Conclusion:  

Take some time over the next week to just get quiet.  Getting out in nature always works for me, but do what feels good for you.  In the stillness, allow yourself to be a witness to the whispers from your soul.  What do you long for? What changes are you ready to make? What are you inviting into your life?

 

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Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of those who are ready to make peace with their unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.
Holding Space for Grief Triggers

Holding Space for Grief Triggers

HOLDING SPACE FOR OUR GRIEF TRIGGERS

 

A smell, a memory, a photo, a song.

They can all bring up memories that trigger an emotional response of grief, fear, sadness and so much more.

Grief can come in waves, even years after the fact.  Splashing on the surface of our soul, opening us up to memories long past; reminding us of our own vulnerability and that our healing is not yet complete.

The loss of a parent, child, spouse, pet, a baby – born or unborn; can drop us to our knees. Just as we think we’ve made peace with our loss, a new reminder lands on the shore of our heart, breaking us open once again. Reminding us that there is more healing to be done.

When we don’t have the space or the emotional ability to process our grief, we all too often bury it deep inside.

We grieve within the capacity that we are able to in the moment.  For some, it may take months and for others, like myself, it may take years.

Grief Triggers

 

These triggers arise, as reminders that there is something inside of us that we have not yet made peace with.

A question that often comes my way is: What can I do when I’m emotionally triggered and how do I handle the emotions that arise?

One of the first things you can do is RECOGNIZE YOUR TRIGGER

Ask yourself these questions….

What are my triggers?

What emotion is being activated?

Where do I feel this emotion in my body?

Does it have a color, shape or size?

Close your eyes and intuitively feel where this emotion resides within your body.  By giving yourself the space to take a step back and identify this feeling, you’re immediately able to ground and center your energy.

Grief Triggers

Next, CREATE SOME SPACE TO REFLECT

There are many practices that can support your reflection, one them in journaling.

I love to journal.  Journaling has absolutely been a life saver for me.  So, if this feels safe for you, I invite you to sit down and begin let your thoughts flow through your pen.

Take a deep breath and ask yourself some simple questions to get started and soon, you’ll find that your words are flowing.

Here are a few simple journal prompts that may be helpful to get you started:

My grief triggers are _____________________ and this is why they still produce these emotions inside of me _________.

My favorite memory of you is ___________________ and this is why __________________.

Even after all this time, I still find it difficult to say your name aloud and this is why _______________.

I’m going to honor you by _____________________.

 

FIND YOUR COMMUNITY

Grief is a lonely place to be and now more than ever, we need a supportive community to share our sorrow.  Whether you surround yourself with family and friends, seek a professional, counselor, healer or join a grief circle; there is strength in community.

In the days of our ancestors, our people would surround us.  We would not face our grief alone.  Yet today, we live in a culture where the emotions of grief are simply not accepted.  We’re encouraged to get back to work without having had time to grieve. We hide our emotions away and close off our heart, for fear of what others might say.

My story healing the heartache of pregnancy loss

HONORING OUR GRIEF THROUGH RITUAL

Francis Weller states in his book, “The Wild Edge of Sorrow” that “Ritual provides the elements necessary to help transform whatever it is we are carrying in our psyches.”

I’ve found this to be true over and over again.  Ritual is an essential part of our life and whether you’re aware of it or not, you probably have several that support your daily existence.  From rising in the morning and making your bed, showering and brushing your teeth.  These are simple tasks that you perform without even thinking of it and yet, without it, you may not function to the best of your ability throughout your day.

Healing rituals for grief are equally important for your mental, emotional and spiritual well-being; they can be as simple or as complex as you desire.  Grief rituals can be deeply supportive when you get hit by those triggers that seemingly “come out of nowhere.”

They exist to help navigate the rites of passage that we move through at different phases of our life, one of them being the loss of a loved one.  They create a container that allow you to channel your grief in a safe and sacred way.

Its important to set the intention that this ritual is being created to honor you and to release any grief that may still be stored within your body.

Rituals can be creative too.  Whether you are an artist or not, get out some paints, markers or even your kids’ crayons and let your emotions flow through you.

Your ritual may be as simple as lighting a candle in honor of your loved one. It may be taking a deep breath and releasing it with love. It may be going for a run, hike, walk or even doing yoga and letting those emotions be expressed through the expansiveness of your bodies’ movement.  You may choose to make a favorite meal, or celebrate your loved ones birthday.

Whatever it might be, it comes from your heart and honors you as you continue on your healing journey.

Grief Triggers

THE SACREDNESS OF GRIEF

It literally took me years to know this but there is a sacredness to grief.

Grief grants us the gift of compassion, for ourselves and others.  It offers us the gift of inner strength that we may never have known without this experience. We learn of forgiveness, grace and joy.  And, most importantly, we learn that even from the ashes, we are able to RISE.

 

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Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of people struggling on the path of unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.
7 Tips to Support Yourself Through Grief

7 Tips to Support Yourself Through Grief

What do you do when facing the emotions of grief?

How do meet your grief and let it move through you, rather than repress it or hold it at a distance?

All too often, in moments of deep grief and sadness, we bury our emotions deep inside, hoping they’ll disappear, never to see the light of day again. The thing is, grief is fluid. Its meant to move through us.

Trying to hide it away, is similar to trying to force a beach ball under water.  You know its going to burst out and you have no idea where it will go from there.

As a society of Western culture, we’re not taught how to hold space for our emotions of grief and I actually find that this is one of the questions most often asked by my clients.  How can I feel safe creating space for my grief?

So, I’ve made a list of 7 ways that you can support yourself through this emotional time and I’m certain that there is something here that will be supportive for you.

 

JOURNAL

Whenever I mention journaling, I get mixed reactions from people; either they love it or its simply not their thing.  I do understand.  When I first began my own healing journey, I couldn’t imagine putting my private thoughts down on paper, it didn’t feel safe for me.  I was willing to try though, and it was my saving grace. To this day I journal nearly every day.

Journaling gives your inner world a voice, it offers an expression to emotions long silenced.  So, if this might be something that interests you but you simply don’t know where to begin, try by stating how you feel.  What is your emotion? Why are you feeling that way? Where in your body are feeling that emotion? Journaling doesn’t have to be complicated.  Its simply a way to safely express your thoughts and emotions.

You can begin a gratitude list.

You can put pen to paper or fingers to keyboard and just allow your thoughts to free-flow, with no expectation or judgement of what comes through you.

This is a time of reflection, connection, release and honoring you.

 

ALLOW YOUR SADNESS TO FLOW THROUGH YOU

Here is a simple practice.  Whether sitting or standing, place both feet firmly on the ground.  Take a nice deep breath inward and hold for 2 or 3 seconds. As you exhale, imagine your sadness moving through your breathe from your tummy, through your lungs and then breathe out with a sigh.  Do this again a few more times, moving your body if you feel the desire to, letting your emotions move with your breath.  Once you’ve done these two or three times, check in with your body. Does it feel softer, more relaxed? If not, do this breath practice again and then on completion, take a moment to give thanks to your breath for allowing your sadness to flow through it.

 

CRYSTALS FOR GRIEF

Rose Quartz:  I’ve carried rose quartz in my pockets, laid it under my pillow and kept it close by my journal when I write. I love this crystal! The rose quartz is wonderful to support the heart during times of heavy grief and sadness.

Apache Tears:  There’s a legend that goes with this stone which you can look up, but Apache Tears is very supportive during grief and helps to keep you in the present moment rather than the past.

Ruby Zoisite:  Another favorite, this beautiful green and ruby crystal is helpful to release heartache.

 

CEREMONY

This can be as simple or sacred as you like. Ceremony is helpful for closure on your healing journey. You could plant a tree in memory of your loved one or gather your family, light a candle and say a prayer or write a poem that you’ll always treasure.  You could create a prayer tree – have some ribbon and pieces of colored paper, pass them around so everyone can write a memory, a prayer or poem in memory of your loved one and then have them tie their prayers on a tree.  Each of these can then be keepsake for times that you need some extra emotional support. Whatever it is, make this exactly what you need to support your healing.

 

ABSOLUTE ROSE OIL

Just a tiny drop on your finger to gently massage into your heart. (both front and back) When your heart feels broken, this will support you to keep an open heart.

 

CLEAR THE ENERGY OF YOUR SPACE

Burn some sage, a bay leaf, incense, ring a crystal bell or use some of your favorite essential oils in a diffuser to clear any negative energy in your home. Set your intention for any energy that does not serve you, to pass through your home and then call in the energy your desire to fill this space. Be sure to open a window or two to all the smoke and negative energy to pass through your home.

 

CREATE A SACRED MEMORY BOX

This can be such a special opportunity to pour your heart into something beautiful for yourself and your loved one. In here, you can place your journal or any treasures that are meaningful to you. Sometimes you need to do something creative when your feelings are just so overwhelming and creating a memory box can be so comforting.

 

If you found this interesting then sign up to my mailing list to be the first to receive more inspiration, news of events or special offers delivered to your inbox every couple weeks.

 

Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of people struggling on the path of unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.
Dancing with Grief

Dancing with Grief

THE DANCE OF GRIEF

There is no one way that is right. Its what’s right for you.

“Grief never ends… But it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith… It is the price of love.”
— Unknown


I see Grief as a Dance.

You may go left, and then right. You may go forward for a few weeks and then back. There is a flow to this dance that we’ve been invited to participate in, at this moment, at this time in life.

We move in the direction that feels right, its our dance.

What feels right for you, may be completely different for me. We are all in different stages of our dance.

Through it all, keep watch for the blessings that come your way. Be grateful, for even the smallest joys.

One day you may realize, that you have the strength to support someone else who may be where you were in the last stage of your dance.

Remember, this dance is yours.
Be patient, kind and respectful of yourself.
Do it your way. Dance with grace.
Be gentle with yourself when you need gentleness.
Be strong, when you need strength.

Dance Your Way.💗

 

If you know the grief of pregnancy loss, then I invite you to join my Facebook group, Peace after Pregnancy Loss.

This space is perfect for moms and dads who have experienced pregnancy loss at any time in your life, as it’s never too late to feel peace after pregnancy loss! 

PEACE AFTER PREGNANCY LOSS

 

Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She dove deep into spiritual practice and became a reiki and meditation teacher. She’s an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting heart-centered women who have experienced the emotional trauma of pregnancy loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.
Be Patient with your Grief

Be Patient with your Grief

Be patient with your grief,
It’s is such a personal thing,
Healing your heartache of pregnancy loss takes time, 
BE PATIENT
 
Lost in a tangle of emotions from deep sadness to shame;
Devastation, guilt, loneliness. Grief by nature is lonely.
As hard as it can be to admit, even jealousy and anger..
BE PATIENT
 
Whatever you feel inside, let your feelings rise.
Now is your time to navigate these muddy waters of emotions.
Honor the space you’re in, YOU ARE HEALING.
BE PATIENT
 
Your tears may well over and flow endlessly;
You may turn inward to work through your grief;
Its ok to be sad for yourself and still happy for others, just
BE PATIENT
 
You may feel empty inside.
Or lose your appetite.
You may want to sleep and hide away from loved ones.
PLEASE BE PATIENT
 
This will pass,
In this moment, every thought and feeling is a journey of its own.
Feel what you are feeling, let your emotions rise.
This is your healing.
BE PATIENT
 
Grief has no timeline.
Your heartache will lighten,
You will learn to honor your baby
In a way that’s right for you;
For now, this time is for you.
BE PATIENT
 
In the depths of your heartache,
Always remember,
You do not journey alone,
Sisters, past, present and future stand by your side’
Lifting you, reminding you….
You are strong.
Your light is still burning inside.
You may not see it now, you may not feel it.
You are more courageous, passionate and powerful than you know.
Sister, you are a powerful being of light!
YOUR LIGHT STILL SHINES TRUE.

If you’ve got questions or would you like to have support through your healing journey, I invite you to connect with me for a free 20 minute Soul Care Call

 

Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She’s also an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting women as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.
Creating Christmas Magic after Pregnancy Loss

Creating Christmas Magic after Pregnancy Loss

It’s that magical time of year.

Bright, colorful lights;

Family gatherings around tables of our favourite food;

Twinkling eyes of children, waiting in anticipation for their favorite jolly guy in his bright red suit;

And a new hope for what might come in the New Year!

Yet for you, your heart may feel broken, maybe tears are welling up in your eyes.

If your still in pain after having lost a pregnancy, this time of year can be particularly lonely. You feel empty inside and the joy of others might make you want to crawl under the covers until the New Year.

If you’re still healing from the heartache of pregnancy loss, I would love to share some ideas with you to help you bring some magic back into your holiday.

  • Give yourself Permission

Holiday gatherings can be overwhelming with well-intentioned, somewhat misguided comments from loving family or being in close proximity to pregnant friends and small children. At times like this, give yourself permission to excuse yourself early or politely bow out of even attending a gathering this year. Emotions after a pregnancy loss can run high and these settings may just add to your levels of stress.  At the same time, a change of scenery can help lift your spirits, so listen to your heart and follow its lead.

  • Gratitude

I know, I know. You hear this so much that you’re thinking, Pulleassse!  My heart might feels so numb and broken, how can I possibly feel grateful?!  I get it, yet the reality is, choosing gratitude will lift your spirits and at the same time, it helps you to see the little miracles around you. Just simply going through the motions of gratitude, sparks some simple changes, even without your awareness. A simple smile, a warm hug, a thank you. Just give it a try, before you get out of bed in the morning and before your eyes close at night, think of three things your grateful for. You can write them down or say them out loud but do this for 10 days and see how your list begins to grow.

  • Light a Candle

There’s something so peaceful about lighting a candle and no one else needs to know the purpose of it, if you don’t want to share it with them. On the eve of your holiday, light a candle in remembrance. As the wick begins to burn, set the intention that you are holding space for your baby and the healing of your broken dreams, as you send out your love to your little one.   There’s something very comforting about this and you can even do it as you sit down for your family dinner, knowing that you are sending blessings out to all you love.

  • Hold a Ceremony

This is a beautiful time of year to hold a ceremony of any kind but especially for your baby.  If you have family or friends that are aware of your loss, use this time to have your nearest and dearest support you.  Choose a space that feels safe for you, physically, mentally and emotionally. Make it sacred.

Have everyone bring a candle that you can each light to honor your baby. You could ask someone to read a poem or you could write a letter to your little one.  Whether you read it out loud or lay it near your circle of candles, just do what’s right for you.

This is a time of remembering, of honoring and releasing. You may want to say a prayer or choose a special blessing.  Just know that this is all for you, trust what feels right.

When you’re ready, you could plant your letter under a special tree or flower or even burn it and release it to the heavens.

In closing, ask those who gathered with you to write a message of hope.  Each message could then be tied with a ribbon to your tree or placed in a special box for you to read in your own time.

Distinguish your candles and thank everyone for all they brought to your space.

 

 

I hope you found this helpful.

If you’ve got questions or would you like to have support through your healing journey, I invite you to connect with me for a free 20 minute Soul Care Call

 

 

Tracey Swainson is an energy healer and intuitive guide on a mission to support women as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.

 

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