The Many Faces of Grief

The Many Faces of Grief

What do you think of when you think of grief?

How does it make you feel?

Can you spot a grieving person when you pass them on the street?

Maybe.

Sometimes.

Not always.

All too often in life, we do not have the space to fully grieve. We many not have the understanding or the knowledge to move through the waves of emotion that want to flow through us and so we bury our grief deep inside.

You might have thought that you didn’t want to talk about it because it was so crushingly painful, you’re not sure if you could function.

Maybe you don’t have a supportive person in your life that you feel safe enough to process that level of grief with.

 

 

And so, you push it down in hopes that one day the pain will virtually disappear.

I can relate in many ways.  For far too long, I buried my grief deep inside.  Desperately hoping that one day my heartache would simply dissipate.

The truth is, it didn’t.

I could function normally.  I could laugh, and love and embrace moments in each day but when the darkness came, so did the many layers of my sadness.

No matter how hard I tried, my grief would find its way into many moments of my life.

As you can see, there are many faces to grief.

Grief can appear in tears and anxiety. It may look like envy or excitement. It can also look like fear, love or sympathy for another.

Yet, it is always there until the moment comes, that your soul cries out for something more.

In my case, it was JOY.  I had a deep, inner longing that came from the depths of my soul, that longing was joy.

When I came to the realization, that I simply didn’t want to go through life any longer carrying the weight of my grief, that is the moment that I surrendered.

I cried out to the Universe for help.

That help came in a variety of forms. New friends, a coach, reiki, a spiritual practice and finally, a connection with my spirit baby.

With the passing of days, weeks and months, I began to feel a sense of deep inner peace and eventually, I found JOY.

So, this is my question for you.  What unresolved grief are you holding on to?  Are you ready to let it go?

 

I’m an Intuitive Grief Mentor and I hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of people who are ready to experience grace through grief.

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Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of those who are ready to make peace with their unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.

 

 

7 Tips to Support Yourself Through Grief

7 Tips to Support Yourself Through Grief

What do you do when facing the emotions of grief?

How do meet your grief and let it move through you, rather than repress it or hold it at a distance?

All too often, in moments of deep grief and sadness, we bury our emotions deep inside, hoping they’ll disappear, never to see the light of day again. The thing is, grief is fluid. Its meant to move through us.

Trying to hide it away, is similar to trying to force a beach ball under water.  You know its going to burst out and you have no idea where it will go from there.

As a society of Western culture, we’re not taught how to hold space for our emotions of grief and I actually find that this is one of the questions most often asked by my clients.  How can I feel safe creating space for my grief?

So, I’ve made a list of 7 ways that you can support yourself through this emotional time and I’m certain that there is something here that will be supportive for you.

 

JOURNAL

Whenever I mention journaling, I get mixed reactions from people; either they love it or its simply not their thing.  I do understand.  When I first began my own healing journey, I couldn’t imagine putting my private thoughts down on paper, it didn’t feel safe for me.  I was willing to try though, and it was my saving grace. To this day I journal nearly every day.

Journaling gives your inner world a voice, it offers an expression to emotions long silenced.  So, if this might be something that interests you but you simply don’t know where to begin, try by stating how you feel.  What is your emotion? Why are you feeling that way? Where in your body are feeling that emotion? Journaling doesn’t have to be complicated.  Its simply a way to safely express your thoughts and emotions.

You can begin a gratitude list.

You can put pen to paper or fingers to keyboard and just allow your thoughts to free-flow, with no expectation or judgement of what comes through you.

This is a time of reflection, connection, release and honoring you.

 

ALLOW YOUR SADNESS TO FLOW THROUGH YOU

Here is a simple practice.  Whether sitting or standing, place both feet firmly on the ground.  Take a nice deep breath inward and hold for 2 or 3 seconds. As you exhale, imagine your sadness moving through your breathe from your tummy, through your lungs and then breathe out with a sigh.  Do this again a few more times, moving your body if you feel the desire to, letting your emotions move with your breath.  Once you’ve done these two or three times, check in with your body. Does it feel softer, more relaxed? If not, do this breath practice again and then on completion, take a moment to give thanks to your breath for allowing your sadness to flow through it.

 

CRYSTALS FOR GRIEF

Rose Quartz:  I’ve carried rose quartz in my pockets, laid it under my pillow and kept it close by my journal when I write. I love this crystal! The rose quartz is wonderful to support the heart during times of heavy grief and sadness.

Apache Tears:  There’s a legend that goes with this stone which you can look up, but Apache Tears is very supportive during grief and helps to keep you in the present moment rather than the past.

Ruby Zoisite:  Another favorite, this beautiful green and ruby crystal is helpful to release heartache.

 

CEREMONY

This can be as simple or sacred as you like. Ceremony is helpful for closure on your healing journey. You could plant a tree in memory of your loved one or gather your family, light a candle and say a prayer or write a poem that you’ll always treasure.  You could create a prayer tree – have some ribbon and pieces of colored paper, pass them around so everyone can write a memory, a prayer or poem in memory of your loved one and then have them tie their prayers on a tree.  Each of these can then be keepsake for times that you need some extra emotional support. Whatever it is, make this exactly what you need to support your healing.

 

ABSOLUTE ROSE OIL

Just a tiny drop on your finger to gently massage into your heart. (both front and back) When your heart feels broken, this will support you to keep an open heart.

 

CLEAR THE ENERGY OF YOUR SPACE

Burn some sage, a bay leaf, incense, ring a crystal bell or use some of your favorite essential oils in a diffuser to clear any negative energy in your home. Set your intention for any energy that does not serve you, to pass through your home and then call in the energy your desire to fill this space. Be sure to open a window or two to all the smoke and negative energy to pass through your home.

 

CREATE A SACRED MEMORY BOX

This can be such a special opportunity to pour your heart into something beautiful for yourself and your loved one. In here, you can place your journal or any treasures that are meaningful to you. Sometimes you need to do something creative when your feelings are just so overwhelming and creating a memory box can be so comforting.

 

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Tracey is an intuitive grief mentor and energy healer. Her work aims to increase awareness of the grief healing journey and to hold space for the emotional and spiritual well-being of people struggling on the path of unresolved grief. It was her own healing journey of multiple miscarriages that fully birthed her sacred work. The grief work that she facilitates focuses on energy healing, mindful practices and soulful rituals, so they can create a sacred relationship with their loss, while finding a new way to embrace life.
Your Calling is Calling You

Your Calling is Calling You

Do you know that feeling deep inside?
It keeps calling out to you.
It comes in your dreams.
It calls out to you through the day.
It whispers to you.
You turn your back on it.
Is it really calling you?
You try to distract yourself from it.
It’s always there.
No matter where you are or what you do, it calls out louder.
It wakes you in the night,
You become restless,
No matter how you try,
YOUR CALLING, IS CALLING YOU.
Can you hear it?
Is it a soft whisper?
Is it an ache in your heart?
You can do this.
You are ready.
Take that step,
Trust.
The Universe is holding you,
The Angels support you,
The Goddesses surround you,
Step fully into all you are meant to be.
You were born to do this.

Photo Credit: Alex Iby

Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She’s also an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting women as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.http://www.traceyswainson.com

 

 

 

Fear to Peace after Baby Loss

Fear to Peace after Baby Loss

I had a beautiful conversation with a client, speaking of her fear of death since having had several miscarriages.

It brought back the memory of my own fears that I once struggled with.

This is something that increasingly haunted me with the loss of my babies. I had become so fearful of the loss of my family members and fur-babies that I never wanted to speak of my fear, for fear of making it a reality!

I knew this was no way to live, but I didn’t know how to cope with my fears.

When I finally learned that its very common for women who have experienced multiple losses to feel this strong fear of death, I actually felt some relief.

Its natural to feel this way after loss as we become so much more aware of just how fragile life is.

So, if this is you, please know you’re not alone!

So, what can you do?

  • First of all, if this is a new experience for you, the feelings may gradually fade away in time.
  • Recognize you fears – take a moment and really feel into that space. Where are you feeling this? What does it feel like? Where is this particular feeling coming from? By taking a moment to be truthful with how you feel and why, you can begin to rationalize exactly why this is coming up at this moment in time and begin to accept them.
  • Speak your fear out loud – By speaking your fear and identifying why its there, it gives you a new sense of freedom. By acknowledging your fears you begin to take back your power.
  • Call on your Angels – Your angels are ready and willing to support you, they’re just waiting for you to ask. Call on your angels and ask them to surround you or your loved one with a protective bubble of love and light. When you ask, don’t do this from a place of fear but of thankfulness.
  • Gratitude – Create a habit of being grateful for each moment of your day. Whether you start your day or finish it with gratitude, a grateful heart lets you see what you have right now, in this moment and can help to dissolve the fears before they arise.

The intention here is that death is inevitable for all of us, yet we can learn to enjoy our life again to the fullest and experience all of the love, peace and joy that we desire.

 

If you’ve got questions or would you like to have support through your healing journey,

I invite you to connect with me for a free 20 minute Soul Care Call

 

Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She’s also an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting women as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out. http://www.traceyswainson.com
Make Peace with your Loss

Make Peace with your Loss

Making peace with the loss of my babies has been a long journey that, has my heart filled with so much joy.

There was a time, in the depths of my heartache that I would never have believed this. My emotional wounds felt so deep and dark; yet sadly I hung on to them like a baby holds onto its blankie.

How is it that the thing we fear, that creates such anxiety and shame within our life becomes the monster that we have such difficulty letting go of. For me, it was my multiple miscarriages, but not just that, it was everything that I allowed to become attached to that.

Anger, Depression, Shame, Envy, Isolation, Hopelessness, Inadequate, There must be something wrong with me. This and so much more was attached to the loss of my babies. It became a monster that I felt I couldn’t fight, so I gave in. I lost my power.

I clearly remember the moment, that I looked in the mirror and actually said out loud, “I’m done, I don’t want to carry the heartache another day.”

“Universe, I give this to you.”

Literally, six days later, I began to feel my heartache begin to heal.

The sadness, anxiety, emptiness… began to fade away.

I felt so much peace, as though I was floating on a cloud. I could feel the peace, like rays of sunshine, shining through the depths of my sadness, carrying the heavy sadness away.

In the weeks that followed, something else began to happen. I began to find my power. Now, I am learning self-love, I’m learning to honor my truth. I’m creating space for everything I always wanted but felt so unworthy of.

I heard Gabby Bernstein say thatwhen you say YES to healing, the healing is presented to you in a very profound way.

I can say with absolute certainty that this is true!

How do you know that you’re ready to create space for healing in your life?

  1. You feel your sadness, anxiety or fears as though there’s a heaviness within your heart and you are SO tired of carrying this weight around.
  2. You begin to recognize that there’s something you desire, if only you could get past ________________________ (fill in the blank, what is your monster?)
  3. In the stillness of space, you realize that you are beginning to see you life in a whole new light, despite the burden you carry.

So when you are ready to release your heartache, anxiety, fears or whatever may be holding you back, let the Universe know, and an opportunity WILL present itself to create a space of healing and fill your heart with soulful peace.

 

 

If you are ready to heal your heartache of pregnancy loss at a deep soul level, if you’re tired of carrying the weight of sadness and need to speak with someone who has been where you are, I invite you to experience this Journey of Sacred Love Healing.

 

This is a 1:1 Intensive Session that offers soul work, intuitive guidance and energy healing, creating a container for you to feel seen, heard, held and understood, so that you are able to heal your pain of loss and begin to feel a new sense of peace.

 

 

If you’ve got questions or would you like to have support through your healing journey,

I invite you to connect with me for a free 20 minute Soul Care Call

 

 

Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She’s also an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting women as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.  http://www.traceyswainson.com 

 

 

Embrace your Destiny

Embrace your Destiny

Destiny

What is that thing that makes your heart sing,

That, in the dark of night you can see the light.

Shining bright and lighting your way,

Take courage, dear one, today is your day

You have a gift, its time to shine,

Fear no more, you will be fine.

Hold your stake, hold it high,

Your fire is burning deep inside.

Know with certainty, your truth inside,

Embrace your destiny, do not hide.

Tracey Swainson is wife and fur baby mama, first and foremost. She’s also an intuitive healer and mentor, passionate about supporting women as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and physical bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey empowers women to transform their broken hearts and guides them to remember their inherent truth so they can gain closure and heal from the inside – out.  http://www.traceyswainson.com 

 

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