Creating sacredness in my life after pregnancy loss.
When I first began my healing journey, I had no idea how to begin. What I did recognize early on though, was that I desperately wanted to find a way to honor my initiation with death.
I wanted to create a space where my grief felt held.
I didn’t realize at the time that learning to honor grief would become an integral part of my life and my life’s work.
What I did know, was that I had held on to my grief for far too long and I needed a space to hold it. Through this, I slowly began to learn how to honor my pregnancy losses and my babies.
This is where ritual became such an important part of my life.
I didn’t grow up with ritual in my life and so my grief work began. I slowly began to step into spiritual practices. This taught me to trust my intuition, honor my loss, and deepen into my own mystical ways.
What ritual offers us.
Ritual for pregnancy loss can be a catalyst to step deeper into your healing while creating a soulful connection with your baby in spirit.
One book that has been an integral part of my understanding of grief is The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller. In his book, he says “Ritual offers us the two things required to fully let go of the grief we carry: Containment and Release. Containment offers the holding space for the ones in grief. It provides the safe place to fall, to descend into the depths of both the known and unknown layers of sorrow.”
Three ways to allow ritual to support your grief of pregnancy loss.
- Ritual can support you to honor your pregnancy, your baby loss as well as acknowledging that your child in spirit is and always will be a part of your life.
- It connects us to what is sacred, bringing reverence, beauty, and peace to our lives.
- It brings healing to our unprocessed grief. Giving space for what we’ve buried deep inside to become visible.
When crafting your rituals, it’s important to be intentional as you enter this sacred space.
Ask yourself why you are crafting this ritual, what is the purpose of it, then be guided by all the senses as drop into the liminal space.
You might want to create a private space so you will be able to surrender, allowing your tears to flow as you consciously grieve the loss of your baby, in whatever way is right for you. Be gentle with yourself and remember to breathe.
You may desire to have a special candle specifically for your ritual. Or essential oils to calm your energetic system, allowing it to relax. You may desire to lay in a warm bath or listen to music as you move your body in a way that connects you with your soul. You may want to journal or write a letter to your child.
Surrender to the Divine all expectations as to how this must unfold, and trust what feels right and allow your soul to guide your healing journey.
And so, be guided by what feels right for you and let your soul lead the way. May you find peace on your journey and your heart lead the way.