Healing through Acceptance is a process…
We seldom consider the experience that our heart, mind and body must go through to reach this place of acceptance, to allow our experience to process in area of our life, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.
Healing is a time of transformation; as we release the dreams, heartache and sorrow to make room for something new.
In order to heal, we must be willing to release and more often then not, there is a breakdown before there is breakthrough. In my experience, I’ve noticed that the journey to healing comes in waves.
Just when you feel like you finally have control, that you’ve fully accepted your circumstances and all is smooth sailing, along comes a rogue wave that sends you crashing to the depths, feeling the pain all over again!
It took me years to find peace with the loss of my pregnancies. There were times that I felt like it was all water under the bridge, and then I would see children the age that mine would be, walking to school, riding bikes, just living life and the wave would wash over me once again. Bringing up all the emotions long buried, feeling the heartache all over again.
It wasn’t until I finally became aware that I hadn’t truly accepted the fact that I was not going to be a mother, that this lifetime would pass me by without having the opportunity to experience all that motherhood entailed, did I finally genuinely embrace the courage to release my heartache.
What I’ve found with healing, is that the memory never leaves;
The sadness is always a small undercurrent of emotion, I still shed tears and feel the emptiness at times; but with acceptance comes peace and slowly a transformation takes place.
Let your heart be your guide. It knows what’s best for you.
- Be sure to give your body rest, to nourish it with nutritious food and strengthen it with exercise.
- Create some space for joy!
- Share your story in whatever way you can, as speaking of your loss brings healing.
- If you have no one to share with, then write. Pour your heart and soul into writing, and amazing soulful healing take place within your heart.
It’s been 16 years now since my first miscarriage, with several others to follow and though at times the sadness is still felt in my heart and the tears still flow, I now hold it in a different space.
Where in the past, I felt such shame and heartache, I now have an appreciation for the life that I have and for the people I share my life with. I find new ways to be grateful.
My hope is that in being open with my journey, that it will allow you to find peace with yours.
Every woman who heals herself, heals all the women who came before her and all the women who come after her. – Dr. Christine Northrup
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