I see you.

You move through life with a brave face.

Hiding your pain deep inside.

You ache for others to know that you too, are a mother.

You feel a sense of intense grief of having empty arms with no child to fill them.

You feel invisible in a world of mothers and grandmothers, seen and yet not seen.

You cringe when asked “How many children do you have?”

And you wonder, ‘do I tell them?’

Maybe you choose to say that you have no children but then you heart aches, as only you know the truth.

It takes so much energy to share that you are a mother of pregnancy loss.

You long to say ‘Yes!’ ‘I’m a mother too!’ You long to acknowledge your children, but will they understand? Will you be met once again with a very awkward silence?

There may be no right or wrong answer, accept to trust your heart.

I am here to say, I acknowledge you.

I see you as the mother you are.

I am with you.

I too, am a childless mother. I’ve had five pregnancy losses. I’ve also had the joy of connecting with my spirit baby that showed me that he passed through my body each time.

His name is Bodhi Sean.

It took me so many years to reach this place. To say that I am a mother. To feel a sense of peace, connection and belonging.

My spirit baby became the vessel of my personal healing journey, and for that I am so grateful.

I wish the same peace for you too.

So, dear childless mother, no matter where you are on your healing journey, all I ask is that you learn to be gentle with yourself.  If you choose to claim to your world that you are a mother too, I stand beside you and claim that for you.  If it feels too much, and it feels better to keep this close to your heart, I honor that within you too.

Whatever you choose, remember this, you belong.

You are a mother too.


My clients seek to honor their grief and to show up in their world feeling at peace, deeply connected and full of joy. They may be on a spiritual path or are awakening through their grief healing journey, either way, they’ve come to a point where they desire to be supported and come home home to their soul.  If this feels like you, click here to book a 20-minute session and let’s see if we’re a good fit!


Tracey Swainson is a Reiki healer/teacher and intuitive mentor, passionate about supporting healers and space holders as they heal their heartache of pregnancy loss and the stories that may have been created due to the emotional trauma of their loss. She brings healing both to the spiritual and emotional bodies through intimate, sacred, supportive one on one sessions. It was the emotional and spiritual healing of her own pregnancy loss experiences that fully birthed her into this sacred work. Tracey guides women through their healing journey and holds space for them to awaken to and connect with their Child of Light, so they can birth their powerful work into the world Connect with Tracey via linktree and subscribe to her mailing list to receive monthly doses of heart-centered notes. https://linktr.ee/traceyswainson